"Love, health, and a second chance: How we overcame the odds to build a beautiful life together"

I still remember the day I walked down the aisle to marry the love of my life, Marty. 

It was 2011, and we were just starting our married life together after meeting this one time at band camp in 2006. It was an insta-connection... Sparks flew, immediately! It was love at first sight, we were hot and heavy for each other, and we were excited to start our new life together, officially.

He had big dreams of becoming a touring musician, playing bass in a heavy metal band, and rocking out all night long, playing video games where he could fit them in, but he had settled for a job as a band director, so we could make ends meet and seal the deal of getting married. 

It was a stipulation that had been imposed on us by my family, specifically my grandma, who I had lived with since I was in 7th grade...It was done with the best intentions, but the consequences were dire. We just didn't know it yet.

I, on the other hand, had just graduated with a degree in social work, but was unable to find a job fresh out of college, which made me feel like I wasn't pulling my weight in our relationship. I was super depressed, and I felt so much pressure from my grandma to be in two places at once. It was so unfair!

We thought everything would fall into place, but life had other plans for us. Right after we got married, I was forced to become the primary caregiver for my grandma, who was battling cancer.

We already had been through a long distance relationship, after experiencing a long year apart in college. When you KNOW who your person is, you just KNOW…and you don’t want to spend any significant amount of time away from them. However, it was something that was “necessary” for us to get a head start in “the real world”.

That was hard enough, but I stayed busy playing sports, being editor on the yearbook staff, and building sets for the drama club. My busyness kept my mind occupied.

But now we were supposed to be married! We had made a commitment to each other in front of God and everybody. We had spent our whole lives up to this point playing by the rulebook, following the traditional path of going to school, earning a degree, buying a house, and getting married…

That promise of “freedom” had failed us spectacularly. It was a tough time for us.

Unable to find a job, I ended up working as an assistant at the school, but I was struggling to find my place and still felt like I wasn’t contributing to our shared vision for our future.

Eventually, I made the difficult decision to move back to my hometown to take a job as a service coordinator at a senior assisted living center, something I had always wanted at that time.

Marty, on the other hand, was stuck alone teaching school in an area he never wanted to be in, (and not exactly living out his dreams) meaning that we were going through a long distance relationship for a second time, but without the "productive" distractions that had come with being in school…

Living two completely separate lives was taking a toll on us. We had never gotten to enjoy a honeymoon or even live in the same house together for close to three years after we got married. 

Marty was fighting his own battles, struggling with his weight, emotionally eating, drowning himself in alcohol, and playing video games way into the night to numb the pain he was going through, as a result of the same trap…wondering why he wasn’t “good enough” for us to be together.

I wasn't doing so well myself. As for me, I was HUNDREDS of pounds overweight, and I received a grim diagnosis from the doctor – if I didn't change something soon with my own health, I'd be dead by 30. I was suffering from chronic inflammatory diseases that attacked my reproductive system, among other things…

My condition made having kids highly improbable, and even having sex was excruciatingly painful when we tried.

When we were together, we were always fighting about what's for dinner, who wasn't pulling their weight, and sometimes fighting just to show we still cared...and definitely not having any makeup sex. It was a dark and difficult time for both of us.

"Living Apart Almost Destroyed Us, But Then We Turned Our Lives Around"

But everything changed at the end of the 2014 school year in May.

Marty made the brave decision to quit his job as a school teacher and moved to be with me. We had no real plan, but it was a turning point for both of us, because we were finally together at last. Now, I had the job and Marty had gone through a total transformation. He had lost 100 pounds in what seemed like overnight, and to me, it looked effortless! I was so upset, but he was still left to put the broken pieces of what he was “supposed” to do with his life back together.

I had his back while he figured out what to do with himself next, as he had done for me when I was in the same situation.

We both took our individual paths to reclaiming our health, which came with a lot of conflict itself. We both lost hundreds of pounds between the two of us (never to be found again) and completely changed our identities and relationship with food by becoming nutrition counselors. Marty pursued his passion and became a personal trainer and coach for mixed martial artists (which was the dream he used to motivate himself to compete as an amateur while streaming video games when he got injured with a knee injury to promote his business) before eventually settling in as a full-time writer... watching him take control of his life like that really turned me on!

If he could do that, what could I do? With his love and support, I overcame the painful symptoms of my chronic inflammatory disease and became a best-selling author while also navigating another job in the workforce as an athletic director at a country club...which was a whole saga of ups and downs by itself! 

Years were wasted working for "the man" instead of creating the business I wanted with MY MAN!

Now, we're full time business partners and content creators too, which means lots of time together for fun, going on trips with family (or by ourselves), and sexy adventures! And we want you to come with us on this journey, and avoid all the mistakes we made along the way!

Looking back, we realized that life really sucks when you're not with the person you love. It sucks even more when y'all are together, but still miles apart inside. It all starts to unravel when you forget to prioritize your needs, first!

We made a decision to intentionally create our lives together, to open up to each other more than ever before, and to put an emphasis on creating a romance that would ripple through spacetime as a celebration for what we had collectively overcome.

Professionally speaking, we had a lot of success on our own, but we eventually confirmed what we sorta knew all along... WE WORK BEST TOGETHER! 

It's about intentionally creating the love story that we want, and we do it our way by learning through our own experiences, as well as from others who've come before us who live the kind of life we're looking to achieve, in life, in business, and in love.

And together, through our struggles and triumphs, Marty and I have built a beautiful life, full of love, passion, and purpose. We learned that through it all, the key to everything is love – love for ourselves, love for each other, and a love for the life we've created together.

Finally, we're creating the life we always wanted with our shared vision for the future without fear of judgment, rejection, or criticism that's just going to happen anyway.

We went "rogue" from the path that was mandated for us, and everything has paid off ever since. I won't lie to you…

It was scary, but the results we've produced for ourselves and others along the way are nothing short of amazing! Many people we've encountered along the way have described us as a power couple. They might even see us as professional MILFs, DILFs, or the mysterious, sexy DINK-couple-next-door. It's very flattering, and I'd bet that that's how you want to see yourselves, too.

The system for creating generational wealth with long-term happiness has utterly failed ALL free-spirited rogues…not just us.

AND It's STILL not easy to "make it all work", but it's a lot simpler (and WAY LESS CONFUSING) whenever you're on the same page with your partner, and y'all are working towards building the life you want together, brick-by-brick! We are all destined to collectively recover and rebuild from the world’s greatest crises, which hey,...take a look around.

Both of us have room to operate and grow, as individuals and as partners. We get to feel progress everyday, because you know that you've taken responsibility for your own needs, first and foremost, and you have the backup of the person you love the most because YOU have their back. 

And you know what? Not even that is really guaranteed that feeling will be reciprocated from your partner. Every experience is a brick on the road to redemption, understanding, and ultimately trust.

Are you destroying or building? The choice is yours.

And I gotta tell you…

Our love life and bedroom shenanigans have never been more on point and EXTREMELY SATISFYING with toe-curling ecstasy! We've done some adventurous, exciting things together and created memories that will last a lifetime. (We might even have it recorded somewhere...for a sexy keepsake preserving our youth and passion for each other, or we might decide to go full-blown porn couple, just because we can. Who knows?)

All we know is it's never too late to revamp your romance!...and the best part is, it only takes one of you to take the leap to start seeing results!

Rogue Consciousness is the combined wisdom of our relationship, distilled down to proven rituals, rules, and recipes for creating your shared vision for the future. It will help you to rewrite the rule book of your relationship, own your path in life, and understand each other like never before! So, if you want to create the flexible dynamic you've been looking for without conforming to the expectations of what your relationship is "supposed" to look like, then this book is definitely for you!

It's the way to write Y'ALLS LAW! Your combined wisdom. Your Rogue Consciousness!

It's the thing that will allow you to tag team the game of life with your partner, so you can have the career, relationship, and results across your life that you want!

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